Okay so, I wouldn’t say i’m a radical feminist. But I am a feminist. The great Maya Angelou once said
“I am a feminist. I’ve been female for a long time now. I’d be stupid not to be on my own side.”
In turn, as a woman I do have very strong opinions about gender roles. Don’t worry, I wont be pulling up historical dates and feminist figures, but I do want to address something I’ve been feeling lately. Being a man or a woman shouldn’t determine your future. Being a woman doesn’t mean I have to be a damsel in distress waiting for my prince and being a man doesn’t mean you have to display acts of bravery to assert you manhood… this is not Disney!
Now I’m only speaking for myself, but as well as being a woman, I’m also an individual. I do not think a male or female should tell me, what is expected of me as an individual ( pertaining to what role I should play or what I should experience in life!). I hate being told because I have a womb I should act in a certain way, or feel odd because I don’t melt every time I see a baby ( I like them, just not in a “please let me be blessed with one right now” kind of way). Women who decide to put their careers before children or decide they don’t want children in general, shouldn’t be seen as; selfish, cold-hearted or unfortunate, but celebrated. In addition, if a woman decides she would rather take a traditional role in her household and dedicate herself to being a housewife, she should also be celebrated in her own way.
And before you start to think I am anti-men, let me assure you, I am NOT! If a man would rather play an alternative role, he shouldn’t be ridiculed or branded effeminate; as long as it works in his life what is the problem? If his partner is happy for him to stay at home then…kudos to him! We are so caught up in the mainstream view of what men and women should do, be and look like that we forget that, we have the freewill and the ability to live however we want and shouldn’t let anyone tell us otherwise! Don’t judge people because they don’t live like you or everybody else… That makes you a hater (not a cute attribute!)
I just want to be the woman, I want to be, and be with a man who is confident in himself and accepts me for me… I know its not going to be rainbows and skittles, but what it will be is real and authentic. Be the best version of you, not the uniform version of who you think you should be!
Okay now go and be fabulous x
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