I KNOW! I said in my procrastination post (If you missed it click here Been A Long Time!), that i would post more regularly. But guess what!? Life got in my way; in between writing my essays, writing my dissertation, working and trying to maintain some sort of social life, writing blogs did not make my list. But this time i really am going to try and write regular blogs, and i’m expanding too ( yes i am attempting to grab your interest!). Travel, health and beauty reviews, with a dash of witty motivational posts, is what you have to look forward to from me.
I have had writers block for a long time now, and when i saw this above picture, it really made me think about women and how sometimes we rely on others to appreciate us before we appreciate ourselves. Compliments, clothes, make up, a mans love, money etc will never feel the void when you don’t love yourself. And NO i do not mean you have to sit in your room with incense burning, practicing yoga, Erykah Badu and sipping on a lemongrass and kale smoothie ( But if that’s your goal then get it girl!). I mean more so loving yourself enough to walk away from bad relationships, toxic friends and letting go of past pains. DO NOT let your man cheat because it’s a “phase”, DO NOT let your friends be unsupportive, DO NOT let people who claim to be family, but have never done anything for you in your life, act as though you owe them something, simply because you share blood DNA. Be strong, be smart and be ready to love yourself, whether you have love from others are not.
Its easy to get caught up in trying to be perceived as perfect; trying to be body goals, hair goals, skin goals, relationship goals. Letting people feed off your positive energy, in order to build your ego, in the long-term it is detrimental to your self love. Let your faith build you up, rather than being dependent on the words or actions of others.
Self Love- (Wikipedia)- loving oneself is different from being arrogant,conceited, or egocentric, meaning instead caring about oneself and taking responsibility for oneself. Do not feel bad about loving yourself because you cant truly love others before you love yourself. Elle gives 5 great small tips to self love… ( Click link to read the Elle article Self Love)
Love Yourself
1. Pay attention to what you need- in any given moment and respond to those needs accordingly. Take action to learn what your needs are by practicing self-awareness.
2. Speak up (using your voice) to express your needs- Honour what you believe to be right and best for you even though it may be different from that of your mate (or others).
3. Make time each day to do things that nurture your soul- Take a walk at lunch so that you can enjoy the outdoors as you create some time all to yourself, go to the gym, listen to the kind of music that you most enjoy, rebuild the engine in your car, enjoy a long, hot bath, get a massage, and so on.
4. Take care of your self first- by attending to your fundamental needs such as self-care, exercise, proper sleep, healthy eating.
5. Say “no” (without guilt or angst)- as a way of honoring what is right for you. Those that truly care about and respect you will honor your answer of “no”.
So ladies ( & gentleman. I’m not sexist :P) lets love ourselves, lets be positive and practicing loving ourselves, instead of losing ourselves in loving others. ladies (yes specifically for the ladies!) remember what Queen Maya Angelou once wrote “Women should be tough, tender, laugh as much as possible, and live long lives. The struggle for equality continues unabated, and the woman warrior who is armed with wit and courage will be among the first to celebrate victory”
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