So usually I would apologize for being a sporadic writer, but at this point, I’m not even sure if anyone is going to read this so… a simple hi to whoever gets here will suffice. So I’m here to share, rant, express, in fact, all of the above in this post. I am having a real 1995 waiting to exhale moment, where life is just handing me L’s in every way ( If you’ve never seen the infamous Bernie scene in the film you have not lived! Click here to see). That moment where you feel like “ARRGGHH WHHYYY!!”.
Throughout school you’re told to go through the typical motions; school – college – university – High fling graduate job – husband – kids = happily ever after and although it may work like that for some, that is not everyone’s reality. It’s Sunday evening, a week before my 22nd birthday and as I was sitting here hosting a pity party because I’m single, in between jobs and unsettled it hit me… it is okay not to be okay.
As I get older I realize things rarely ever go to plan! You didn’t lose those 25 pounds before summer, you didn’t get swept off your feet like Rapunzel even though your 26″ weave is slaying, you lost money, friends etc and that is okay. The problem is when you put so much time and place so much value on things, failing feels like you are not good enough. If you know me I am the first to think ” Oh I didn’t get this job, this guy is playing me and my straighteners broke so FML!”- yes, i am a little extra, but my point is when things start to get on top of you, you can spiral into this mindset that things won’t ever work out. The anxiety of not doing well and not being able to see that this is just temporary is blinding and very heavy on my shoulders and I know this is a problem that many people in their early 20’s go through. It also doesn’t help if you put pressure on ourselves to get to the lifestyles showcased on reality TV, Instagram and other social media where it almost becomes a competition to be better than one another rather than the best version of ourselves.
The great Maya Angelou once said:-
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
Sometimes you need to hit a low to elevate your mind or give you the kick you need to truly excel. Try not to measure your success to that of Becky, Shaniqua or Patel because that is for them and this is your race, whether you’re crawling, skipping or running, set your own pace and finish it. I think you just need to be able to say “Right I am going through a rough patch and it is okay because this is my journey”. ( I am definitely working on this so I do not have all the answers & doubt I ever will but… Hey might as well give it a try right & help others at the same time!)
Finally, if you are especially feeling low or not yourself make sure to seek help, your struggle does not have to be a secret. Whether you just need a good cry and a hug from your mum or actual Mental health advice. Today marks the end of Mental health awareness week which was between 8-14 May & it is important we understand and empathize with those who may be finding it hard to cope. People hide fake smiles and facades to hide their issues, so take the time out to check on those you love & even work colleagues, old friends etc to lend an ear and give encouraging words.
Okay, I’m done ranting, talking, rambling or whatever this was! Enjoy your day and help another do the same.
Deuces x
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